Quite a familiar looking question, isn't it? Definitely openly and publicly found in facebook, friendster and most of the networking channels. It is an interesting question, actually. Well, at least, it is helping to let others who might be interested to know whether it is safe to hit on you. Of course, it consists of a variety of status for you to choose. The few popular ones are of course 'in a relationship', 'single', 'married' and 'it's complicated'. I will bet that if they have a 'not ready for a relationship' status, it will definitely be a big hit.
Well, I personally do not quite get what it's-complicated trying to imply. I mean, how complicated can it get if you are good enough to love yourself and make it simple? Of course you may argue that I do not understand what situations you are in. But, that gives you the excuse to use this status? How complicated? 1: If you broke off, then you are single. 2: If you are in love and single, then it is still single. 3: If you are in love and taken, then it is in-a-relationship. 4: If you are in love but you are not available due to the fact you are madly in love with that someone and that someone is madly in love with you, then it is just plain crazy because the both of you can already be in-a-relationship. So once, my friend surveyed her friend who was in a complicated status.
Friend A: So, how have you been lately? What's up?
Friend B: Oh, nothing much. You know. The usual complicated stuff.
A: So that is why the it's-complicated status?
B: Yup.
A: What about?
B: You know. The usual relationship problems. The guy said he likes me more than his girlfriend and his girlfriend does not know about this. We had sex together. We were happy together. He will break up with his girlfriend soon for me.
That will be only a little part of it. The complication? NONE! That is more like a I-AM-DESPERATE status. Another real life example of a complicated human being will be the following:
Confused boy: I don't know what is exactly going on between us. We broke off. Yet, I know we still like each other.
OR:
Girl: I don't know if we are officially named in-a-relationship 'cuz, like, we have never held hands or go any further. But, even so, he IS my boyfriend. It is just complicated.
Then, why broke off in the first place? Due to personal reasons? In my opinion, that is definitely a bad excuse. You love that someone. Yet you would not share your problem with that someone who cared. Then, what is the point of being in a relationship? And how can it be complicated when you do not even know if you are in a relationship? That is not complicated. That is just a complication YOU MADE UP!
The famous: Everyone-is-using-the-status-I-better-create-one-for-myself status.
Indecisive party: Gosh! I don't know what she is thinking or how is she feeling bout me.
Party's friend: Then, buck up! Go find out! ASK her!
Indecisive party: It is not as easy as you think. The situation is complicated. It needs time to think over. I can't just walk to her and ask her bluntly.
How about the "I am not ready to commit" or "I am not ready to have or be in a relationship" status? This is definitely a popular status. Of course it is undeniable that it may be due to the concentrating-in-studies-first factor or the fact that you might have a bad past relationship. But, personally, I think they are all EXCUSES!
I mean, come on! How do you know when you are ready and when you are not? Again, unless you have super extraordinary emotion reader power, how can you be so sure? You may argue that "this is my life. My feeling. And you will never understand it 'cuz you ain't me!". Yes, of course I can not argue with that. It is true that you know your own feelings. BUT HOW DO YOU KNOW WHEN YOU ARE READY? To me, I do not think it is due to feelings. You want it, you will have to work for it. You will not stray off of your concentration (or else drop out rates will increase drastically every year). How is it possible to blame it on 'readiness' when you yourself made up your mind for that special goal and having to think bout that goal everyday, will not make you lose concentration? THOSE ARE ALL MADE UP! Pity 'readiness' for being blamed for every single thing.
You argued that you can picture the future if you went for it. Well, NEWS FLASH: You picturing the future does not mean that it will come true because, then, you will only exist in 'Heroes', which I highly doubt so that you are in it! "I picture myself being in a relationship with him. I felt uncomfy and do not know what to do." Think over it. That is a nonsensical sentence! "I am not ready for a relationship. I am not ready to commit again 'cuz I am tired and is still phobia of my horrible past relationship". So, does that mean history will repeat itself and repeat again, and, oops, again and repeat again and again? So, now you are psychic and you can tell you will have another bad relationship? THAT IS CALLED RUNNING AWAY!! GIVE IT A SHOT, people, OR YOU MIGHT LOSE A REALLY GOOD GO! Give it a shot, you will get a 50/50 chance. Not giving at all will be a 100% lose.
But, of course, in the end, the relationship status may be fake. From the status display, it can be a form of self-selling program. Having your relationship fakingly and constantly changing from single to IAR to complicated to married and *POOF* back to single, will definitely draw attention, BIG TIME! Well, you are not an Elizabeth Taylor or Paris or Brit enough to draw attention using the celebrity-favourite: The hooked-on hooked-off relationship publicity act. It will draw attention: Partly sympathizing you and partly thinking that you are one big time player and partly just being a plain topic to be gossiped or bitched about! So, give it a rest 'cuz you are trying too hard. Ain't a pretty sight of the image, isn't it now.
Well, I personally do not quite get what it's-complicated trying to imply. I mean, how complicated can it get if you are good enough to love yourself and make it simple? Of course you may argue that I do not understand what situations you are in. But, that gives you the excuse to use this status? How complicated? 1: If you broke off, then you are single. 2: If you are in love and single, then it is still single. 3: If you are in love and taken, then it is in-a-relationship. 4: If you are in love but you are not available due to the fact you are madly in love with that someone and that someone is madly in love with you, then it is just plain crazy because the both of you can already be in-a-relationship. So once, my friend surveyed her friend who was in a complicated status.
Friend A: So, how have you been lately? What's up?
Friend B: Oh, nothing much. You know. The usual complicated stuff.
A: So that is why the it's-complicated status?
B: Yup.
A: What about?
B: You know. The usual relationship problems. The guy said he likes me more than his girlfriend and his girlfriend does not know about this. We had sex together. We were happy together. He will break up with his girlfriend soon for me.
That will be only a little part of it. The complication? NONE! That is more like a I-AM-DESPERATE status. Another real life example of a complicated human being will be the following:
Confused boy: I don't know what is exactly going on between us. We broke off. Yet, I know we still like each other.
OR:
Girl: I don't know if we are officially named in-a-relationship 'cuz, like, we have never held hands or go any further. But, even so, he IS my boyfriend. It is just complicated.
Then, why broke off in the first place? Due to personal reasons? In my opinion, that is definitely a bad excuse. You love that someone. Yet you would not share your problem with that someone who cared. Then, what is the point of being in a relationship? And how can it be complicated when you do not even know if you are in a relationship? That is not complicated. That is just a complication YOU MADE UP!
The famous: Everyone-is-using-the-status-I-better-create-one-for-myself status.
Indecisive party: Gosh! I don't know what she is thinking or how is she feeling bout me.
Party's friend: Then, buck up! Go find out! ASK her!
Indecisive party: It is not as easy as you think. The situation is complicated. It needs time to think over. I can't just walk to her and ask her bluntly.
Why not? Or how else do you want information to get to you? What is the use of guessing what is going on and making an it's-complicated status to yourself? It will, of course, be acceptable and I will publicly apologize IF YOU ARE PSYCHIC! Or a mind-reader. How do you know what was stored in the head? Again, you are just creating the complication. It is more like an oh-my-gosh-help-me-I-am-going-to-make-myself-crazy-soon status.
How about the "I am not ready to commit" or "I am not ready to have or be in a relationship" status? This is definitely a popular status. Of course it is undeniable that it may be due to the concentrating-in-studies-first factor or the fact that you might have a bad past relationship. But, personally, I think they are all EXCUSES!
I mean, come on! How do you know when you are ready and when you are not? Again, unless you have super extraordinary emotion reader power, how can you be so sure? You may argue that "this is my life. My feeling. And you will never understand it 'cuz you ain't me!". Yes, of course I can not argue with that. It is true that you know your own feelings. BUT HOW DO YOU KNOW WHEN YOU ARE READY? To me, I do not think it is due to feelings. You want it, you will have to work for it. You will not stray off of your concentration (or else drop out rates will increase drastically every year). How is it possible to blame it on 'readiness' when you yourself made up your mind for that special goal and having to think bout that goal everyday, will not make you lose concentration? THOSE ARE ALL MADE UP! Pity 'readiness' for being blamed for every single thing.
HOW DO YOU KNOW WHEN YOU ARE READY WHEN YOU DID NOT GIVE ANYTHING A TRY OR A CHANCE TO SEE IF YOU ARE REALLY READY?
You argued that you can picture the future if you went for it. Well, NEWS FLASH: You picturing the future does not mean that it will come true because, then, you will only exist in 'Heroes', which I highly doubt so that you are in it! "I picture myself being in a relationship with him. I felt uncomfy and do not know what to do." Think over it. That is a nonsensical sentence! "I am not ready for a relationship. I am not ready to commit again 'cuz I am tired and is still phobia of my horrible past relationship". So, does that mean history will repeat itself and repeat again, and, oops, again and repeat again and again? So, now you are psychic and you can tell you will have another bad relationship? THAT IS CALLED RUNNING AWAY!! GIVE IT A SHOT, people, OR YOU MIGHT LOSE A REALLY GOOD GO! Give it a shot, you will get a 50/50 chance. Not giving at all will be a 100% lose.
But, of course, in the end, the relationship status may be fake. From the status display, it can be a form of self-selling program. Having your relationship fakingly and constantly changing from single to IAR to complicated to married and *POOF* back to single, will definitely draw attention, BIG TIME! Well, you are not an Elizabeth Taylor or Paris or Brit enough to draw attention using the celebrity-favourite: The hooked-on hooked-off relationship publicity act. It will draw attention: Partly sympathizing you and partly thinking that you are one big time player and partly just being a plain topic to be gossiped or bitched about! So, give it a rest 'cuz you are trying too hard. Ain't a pretty sight of the image, isn't it now.
