Sounds familiar doesn't it. Basically, it is teaching you how to improve the guy-girl, man-woman relationship. It is published in year 1992. Little exotic and priceless gifts will make women going all ga-ga over. Little chivalry will make women swoon. A lot of attention and the quality and the type of gift will be how the women will judge the men. Spending time together is essential. How women response to their men. How husbands or boyfriends have the need, or should I say a must, to e-mail or text or call their women everyday or every night and shower them with attention 24/7 to keep their relationship last forever.
Those stated may work or did work in the 90's. Since the blooming twentieth century world, actions and needs of martians and venusians, like fashion trends, are constantly improving and changing. In these recent world, lives are going more towards reality. In other words:
"Men and women are from EARTH!"
Chivalry? What does it mean? Does it exist in the world life-dictionary of earthlings? Go ask around. Most men would love their women to be more independent and handle things on their own instead of constantly being all overly-sissified and run weeping helplessly being the help-I-am-a-damsel-in-distress to their men. What is with the pulling chairs out for you, opening the doors before you or laying a clean white cloth on the puddle for you to walk on the puddle without getting your delicate feet wet (when obviously you can walk around it avoiding it). There are surveys in ladies' magazines stating that most men find these annoying. You can't expect the martians to look after and watch out for venusians all the time. When will martians find time to look after themselves? Ladies, give your men a break. They can't always handle things for you. Time to show that women can do it as well. It will bring out the confidence in you which is definitely more attractive than the weepy-creepy attitude. Well, of course there are still men being all overly gentlemen. But better be careful 'cuz like they can either be a phoney prat or that is just plainly his attitude and definitely he will do it to everyone else not only to you. So, how special you feel now, huh?
Attentions? Showeing the venusians with a heck lots of attentions? Pity the martians. How many times they have to crack their head to think up something new to surprise you. The most popular question among venusians are definitely "why do guys get hooked up with footballs (or anything of their interest) even though they are in a relationship and neglect the girls?". Well venusians, why do us girls get hooked up with shopping (or anything of our interest) when clearly some martians may show that they are bored with it? It is the same theory actually. When you answered your own question, you basically answered theirs. In the good ol' days, during the generation of our parents or grands, gifts are essential to show how sincere you are ESPECIALLY the quantity, quality and the PRICE of the gift. In Malaysians' case, in this economically blooming era, well, let us just put it this way. Economic of Malaysia blooms, the inflations bloom as well accordingly (what is the point, right..) and currently, so are the fuel prices. So yes, martians still believe in the guys-must-have-and-own-a-car-to-drive-their-girls-around. In other words, martians have more to handle and their wallets burn faster than the ladies (ladies, shopping and excessive spendings do not count in this case). How do venusians expect them to shower them with lovely shiny small-yet-kachingly-costly gifts?
Intimacy and togetherness? Needless to say more. 24/7 relationships are definitely suffocating. But of course, there are people who enjoys it. During the 90's or 80's, these requirements are essential maybe because risk takings are not popular or their image will be crushed if they broke off with someone, they clearly could not stay happy with, and went off trying with another (trying as in dating). But heck, look at Donald Trump or Elizabeth Taylor. In the olden times, togetherness and intimacy 24/7 may be important to keep the relationships strong and tight and, heck, martians then do not look at other women (or maybe if they did, venusians will probably make their life a mess for a day then). Now? From 2000 and beyond, 24/7 relationships are like trapping a bird in a cage everyday, every second. Imagine seeing the same person everyday. Venusians and martians might just get bored with each other and soon fall apart. But of course they sometimes work out (though I personally never met one without a series of complaints about the 24/7-ness).
Communicating? Question like "why don't you ever listen to me?" will pop out from the mouth of the venusians. Why is that? Do martians really never listen? Come off it, babes. They have ears. Of course they listen. Only that they chose not to comment on it. Martians tend to go towards simplicity while venusians to complications. Martians do listen. In fact, they are good listeners. Venusians tend to go on and on and bringing up things. We can't expect to have martians to solve every of our problems or else what are psychologists or counsellors or mothers are for. Obviously martians have their own problems, too. Only that some (or most) venusians tend to think that martians are simple-minded and are care-free. Seriously, they are not exactly from MARS! They are EARTHLINGS with feelings.
Martians spending more time with their 'brothers'? Think over the question again. Do you see anything wrong with it? Exactly! NO! Venusians is allowed to have venusians' day out or venusians' slumber parties or venusians' gossip day (does that exist? It is basically everyday and every hour, right?), so, why not martians? Ask your martian friends. Martians have things which they do not fully share with venusians, even when they are in a relationship together. They need martian-hood like how venusians need venus-hood.
Well, at least those are opinions of some of the venusians I know. In the twentieth century, remember! WE ARE ALL EARTHLINGS!! Martians and venusians are in their endangered and extinction phase. Try preserving it. In this fast moving world where everyone is going towards risk-taking, the chances of you preserving it is decreasing. No? *Smiles*
Attentions? Showeing the venusians with a heck lots of attentions? Pity the martians. How many times they have to crack their head to think up something new to surprise you. The most popular question among venusians are definitely "why do guys get hooked up with footballs (or anything of their interest) even though they are in a relationship and neglect the girls?". Well venusians, why do us girls get hooked up with shopping (or anything of our interest) when clearly some martians may show that they are bored with it? It is the same theory actually. When you answered your own question, you basically answered theirs. In the good ol' days, during the generation of our parents or grands, gifts are essential to show how sincere you are ESPECIALLY the quantity, quality and the PRICE of the gift. In Malaysians' case, in this economically blooming era, well, let us just put it this way. Economic of Malaysia blooms, the inflations bloom as well accordingly (what is the point, right..) and currently, so are the fuel prices. So yes, martians still believe in the guys-must-have-and-own-a-car-to-drive-their-girls-around. In other words, martians have more to handle and their wallets burn faster than the ladies (ladies, shopping and excessive spendings do not count in this case). How do venusians expect them to shower them with lovely shiny small-yet-kachingly-costly gifts?
Intimacy and togetherness? Needless to say more. 24/7 relationships are definitely suffocating. But of course, there are people who enjoys it. During the 90's or 80's, these requirements are essential maybe because risk takings are not popular or their image will be crushed if they broke off with someone, they clearly could not stay happy with, and went off trying with another (trying as in dating). But heck, look at Donald Trump or Elizabeth Taylor. In the olden times, togetherness and intimacy 24/7 may be important to keep the relationships strong and tight and, heck, martians then do not look at other women (or maybe if they did, venusians will probably make their life a mess for a day then). Now? From 2000 and beyond, 24/7 relationships are like trapping a bird in a cage everyday, every second. Imagine seeing the same person everyday. Venusians and martians might just get bored with each other and soon fall apart. But of course they sometimes work out (though I personally never met one without a series of complaints about the 24/7-ness).
Communicating? Question like "why don't you ever listen to me?" will pop out from the mouth of the venusians. Why is that? Do martians really never listen? Come off it, babes. They have ears. Of course they listen. Only that they chose not to comment on it. Martians tend to go towards simplicity while venusians to complications. Martians do listen. In fact, they are good listeners. Venusians tend to go on and on and bringing up things. We can't expect to have martians to solve every of our problems or else what are psychologists or counsellors or mothers are for. Obviously martians have their own problems, too. Only that some (or most) venusians tend to think that martians are simple-minded and are care-free. Seriously, they are not exactly from MARS! They are EARTHLINGS with feelings.
Martians spending more time with their 'brothers'? Think over the question again. Do you see anything wrong with it? Exactly! NO! Venusians is allowed to have venusians' day out or venusians' slumber parties or venusians' gossip day (does that exist? It is basically everyday and every hour, right?), so, why not martians? Ask your martian friends. Martians have things which they do not fully share with venusians, even when they are in a relationship together. They need martian-hood like how venusians need venus-hood.
Well, at least those are opinions of some of the venusians I know. In the twentieth century, remember! WE ARE ALL EARTHLINGS!! Martians and venusians are in their endangered and extinction phase. Try preserving it. In this fast moving world where everyone is going towards risk-taking, the chances of you preserving it is decreasing. No? *Smiles*
