Happy 1st anniversary.. in advance! *^3^*

To you readers who have no clue what this is about, let me do the honors by telling you what this is all about. Well, my wonderful buddy, partly-sister, bestie, the person who managed to influence and plays a big part in my life, Julie Chaw Chui Yee (dang! it reli rhymes! LOL!) and the man who captured her big, lovable heart, Issie, will be celebrating their first ever and one year anniversary soon on the 14th of March, 2009 *beaming with pride*. No~ they are not married, yet. This is their first year dating anniversary. Ok~ to some of you it may sound like not much of a big deal, but it is to me and I am determine to let the world know about it just because I am excited for them! Nyeh!!>.<

Dear Yee,
How are you feeling? Excited? Ecstatic? Blissful? Totally very very in love? *smiles* (I am making this sound as though you are getting married aren't I? LOL!) Well, I am very excited for you and I can't describe how very excited I am for you. I still remember the first time you told me about this particular man, your feeling and stuff. How you experienced every flavour imaginable before entering this whole relationship. Bitter, sweet, sour, spicy, sometimes odd and funky, etc. How you have little jitters and got lost along the way. I am very very glad you found your way about now. Well, things might go a little rough ahead but, what the heck! With this man by your side, you will not have a problem going through it. Of course, you have all of us, too, to push you ahead but with this man by your side, more than half the war is won already!! So what if there is a hole on the path you are walking on right now, right? The hole in your path can be fixed and beutified without problem (if Malaysian roads can do it, so can your road!) But, ouh well~ whatever to that for now. In the mean time, just kick back, relax and enjoy it, am I right? *smiles* One year! Can you believe what a long way you went through? It seemed as though it was only a month ago you told me you are going to give yourself and your life a chance to do what you want and not something which is traditionally planned! I am still very proud of you! I'll bet you learn alot of stuff through this, right? A true eye-opener, isn't it? Well, to tell you the truth, even though I supported you in this, I DID wonder if you will change and will be obsessed with your relationship. You didn't! So, no worries! You are handling like a pro! *laughs* Well, I won't write too very long. I just wanna tell you how very proud I am of you! WUV YOU!!!! XOXO!!

Dear Issie,
Yea~ There is a little note for you, too! (Bangga tak? *^^*) Well, I don't have anything much to say, though. Because, seriously, if I go on with a long one~ I can really come up with an essay. Anyway, back to the topic. Like I mentioned before, I did not know who you were then so I could not judge you well. But yea~ I DID judge you in some ways which I, Christie Wong, hereby openly apologise to Issie that I did think you were not a good fella, then. No kidding! I did not like the sound of you, then (jeng jeng jeng!!!!!). But when I first chatted with you (the first time I talked to you was through MSN right? Did i remember wrongly? No, right?) and through the way you talk about Julie and the many things you did and tried to do, I sorta knew I judged you too fast and was very wrong about stating you as a not-so-great-of-a-dood. It was, then, I was extremely determined to not let your silly girl lose a great dood like you. I am very glad she did not. I have full faith that you will not do anything which will make her cry badly (unless she is surprised and cried tears of joy, la~ that will be an entirely different story~) and I am sure she thinks the same, too. Just look at her blissful expression on her face whenever she talks to you, about you and when she is with you. You may not know this but do you remember the first time the 3 of us went out together just because I said "the bestie has to meet the dood "? Her face was glowing and after knowing her for like so long~ that was the first time I get to see that kinda look on her face! LOL!! I am very happy for the both of you!! *squeals in excitement and runs around like a blonde bimbo*.

Dear both of you *^^*,
I know~ this post is corny. I do not know why I do it but I just now I want to do it and I DID it! There! Apparently bragging about this through the mouth is not enough~ HAHAHAHA!! Ouh~ This is not your anniversary gift if that is what you two are thinking! No no no~ Your gift will be something ENTIRELY different. It will not be something big. It will be cheap la~~~~~~~ I'll just have to hope you two will like it. Well, not like there is any choice for the both of you. Not-liking-it is not in the option actually. Whatever you two will be getting, even if you two do not like it, you two will have to, well not will-have-to, MUST pretend to be surprised and pretend to like it for the sake of me maximising my self satisfaction. Deal? *smirks* Ok~ I do not know how long this post is really going to be if I really continue yapping. So, here I will end this post. And!!!!!

HAPPY FIRST ANNIVERSARY!!!!

Sie's aims..

After working, like say, for a week, I had totally decided that i will be thankful and will fully enjoy my soon-to-start-again new semester in campus. However, even though I might dislike sitting in the work-cubicle doing absolutely nothing at all, the good thing about this is that I sit around, doing nothing for the whole 8 hours and get my pay. Definitely no complains there.

Ok. Lets see. What shall I use my 2 months worth of pays on.

Things to invest in (See~ I am using the 'invest' term~):
1. Levi's Boot-Cut Jeans.
2. PSP (Under consideration though)
3. Dinner with mom and dad and I am paying!
4. A whole new wardrobe.
5. Sissy shoes!!!
6. Accessories for my white baby.
7. Erm~ Ok. No more. For now that is~ List will be constantly updated if needed. *Smirk!*

Ok! Done with my how-to-spend-my-2-months-worth-of-working-allowances list. I shall start with the usual list of what-I-want-for-christmas list. Ok~ Rename. What-I-aim-for-christmas list.

Oh~ Nah~ I am just kidding~ I just want peace and happiness and joyful harmony to fill the world this christmas *angelic expression with holy hymns complete with halo and angel wings*

Bleh! That is not going to happen. Ok~ Maybe I will add that in the list, too. But I am a material girl living in a material world. There! I admitted it! WOOTS!

Dear SANTA, I am being honest. That makes me a good girl this year. And I have a few teeny tiny things I would love to have. Thank you, SANTA! *Sweet innocent smiles across the face*.

Lets see~
1. Sony Dcam.

2. A wardrobe full of lovely clothings.

3. Lotsa lotsa pictures to fill up my album.

4. Christie's little wishes which no one knew about.

5. A ring bought at Tiffany's, a lovely pair of Jimmy Choo, a gorgeous Vera AWang's, a loaded bank account.

6. -Coming Soon-

See~ Those are not that hard to get aren't they. Easy peasy, lemon squeezy. *More angelic smiles*

Goodness! I just realised that my christmas list got shorter! You lucky people! Just because I am capable of using my own funds now. BUT NO WORRIES PEOPLE! You will be showering me with lotsa gift, uh~ I meant, loves next year like normal again! *MORE innocent looking smiles!!!*

Disclaimer: This post is for Christie's own reference (for the how-to-spend-my-2-months-worth-of-working-allowances list). *MORE SMIRKS!* This is due to the fact that she is extremely bored now and felt like posting a blog post just because she needs to update her post.

Violet's infected with an odd viral disease!

Today: Wednesday, 12.09 a.m.
Location: Violet's royal chamber.
Issue: Pitiful viral infection.

This is how the story will begin.. Violet used to look like this when she had not begin her relationship with the dood called Tacks Bu-Ouk.. An exotic fella he was..

Slowly.. with the lacking of sleeps and her sweet sugary and yummy dosages and LOADS of hugs~ And too much of Tacks' corny jokes~ She slowly.. Evolved.. Day by day.. And this was how she looked like [picture below].. The process was a painful venture.. They called the process.. None other than.. The still-testing Pandafication.. Deadly! Little did she know, that Tacks infected with the virus and only he can spread this infectious, incurable disease! Ouh, how she trusted him~

The final stage.. After a period of time.. If the specimen has not dump and forget bout Tacks.. Psychologically, mentally and emotionally, the specimen will, then, suffer the severe and obvious symptoms of the viral infection.. The specimen will turn weak and a decreasing-in-size eyes all because of the attention Tacks needed day and night, 24/7 a week which causes lack of a lot of sleeps.. The specimen will, then, turned cranky and whatever and whenever the specimen wanted to say or do.. Please take note that most of the time, the actions, may they be verbally or visibly, do not make much sense..

The end.. *X-files' theme begins to play.. Slowly fading away..*

Whoops~

A month passed by and no updates from this rustifying blogspot! Well~ Ain't blogging till finals are over! WOOTS!!

Hugs and kisses! Loves and misses! <3<3<3

The Final Showdown..

It was a dark and windy night. I was in my studies, watching moving pictures, which they named it as 'ANIME', after a fine dinner. I was popping coffee-taste candies into my mouth while having a peaceful and pensive hour.

It was then, I knew, I was not safe. It appeared in front of me. Right on me. I knew a day like this will come. But it had never occurred to me that it came so soon. Undeniably, I was stunned. I was petrified. I was scared. I was ALONE. But I know I have to face this. I have to face my fear someday.

My mind was in a mess. I could not think. I did not react fast enough. The ENEMY came towards me and attacked me first. I was down. It was rough. The enemy backed off. Leaving itself space to dodge if I tried to use sudden attacks. What should I do? I thought to myself. I knew I had to stay calm.

Slowly, very slowly, I moved. I came up. I stood firm on the ground I was standing at. I knew I had to do this alone (well, partly due to the fact there was no one else in the room except me). The enemy saw me moved. It jumped. The enemy got nervous. My strong will shook it a little. I had my advantage, then. It was open. I could have plunged in and bring it down. Slowly, I took my first weapon. It saw what I was doing.

Neither of us moved. We were staring at each other. I was looking sternly at it with clear slight fear in my eyes. The enemy was looking at me, clearly noticing my fear and, with no doubt, was its advantage, its chance.. its opening. I was trapped. One wrong move, I might be down again. I moved a step forward. It moved to the side. Standing still again, I made a sudden move. I ATTACKED!

Unfortunately, the enemy was quick. It managed to dodge. Feeling its satisfaction and proud of itself, feelings it laughing with its purely evil and hateful laugh at me, I took up my second weapon. I ATTACKED! The weapon hit where it was standing. I could not see. It was dark. I could not see if it got hits. But, in vain, it cowardly went into hiding.

It was gone. But I knew I could not loosen up. I knew I was not safe until it ended. I knew I had to stay alert. I felt insecure. Who can come to my rescue? I thought to myself, again. I felt hopeless. I wanted to give in. I was scared. It did not appear. I knew it was watching my every move. It was waiting for an opportunity to ambush me.

Alas, I let my guard down. It tried to escape. It stealthily slithered pass me. But, fortunately, I saw it. It was stunned. I knew, one day, my NINJA trainings will come to use one day. It was thanks to my SENSEI whom taught me the art of feeling the AURA of the enemy.

I stood up! It tried to slither back quickly to its hide out. I took my weapon. I ATTACKED! I MISSED! It picked up pace from the miss. I did not give up. I can not give up! In quick reflexes, I took up my weapon. I SHOT! IT HIT! The enemy was down.

It was then, I muster all my courage and bravery. I went nearer to the fallen enemy which was striving to get up. I looked at it without the slightest mercy in my eyes. I knew VICTORY was in my hand. I took my last weapon. I let out the last hit. The final hit. Like a SAMURAI, the enemy bowed down with respect of itself. I swung the hit. I did it.

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I SQUISHED THAT BIG FAT STRIPED HAIRY SPIDER!! WOOTS!!!

CHEERS!!! WOOHOO!!!

Questions?

Hey, Gang!

Upon at the verge of killing my assignment in front of me, I have decided to take a break and blog a little. Been hearing random questions asked by a bunch of middle-school girls. It is interesting to see the competitions formed between girls. So anyway, I was wondering about the many questions people (been eavesdropping) asked. Somewhat, there are basic questions which are mysteriously unanswerable.

BUT! Before all of that:

Disclaimer: This post is generally stating what MOST of the people in this current era will answer. NOTE: MOST! And 'MOST' does not have the same meaning and is not equivalent to 'ALL' or 'ALMOST ALL'. Christie Wong is not liable for any misinterpretations made by readers. Note: Under the 'useful and popular replies', they are smart answers [some]. So do not go thinking that it is offending you. Under 'reasons being', the main point of this is to clarify why is the question mysteriously unanswerable. And Christie is hereby admitting that these are all by her only! This is her blog and she will state what she wants to state no matter how brainless, unknowledgeable and stupid they can be. Cheers. *^^*

Special Occasions:
Question 1: What do you want for your birthday?
Description: Usually asked when birthdays of the 'asked' are around the corner.

Reasons being: 1) You will be seen as greedy and shameless to the enquirer (well, depending on their personality and mentality, too). 2) You might not get it. So why answer? 3) You might get it. But where is the surprise? 4) You might get it. And it may be only something close to what you want. 5) You will plainly feel uncomfortable answering that question just because everyone else will ask you that EVERY BIRTHDAY season. 6) You do not see the point of telling.
Useful and popular replies: 1) Anything, la~ 2) No need, la~ 3) Ha? I dunno oso o~ 4) Surprise me.

Question 2: So what did you get for christmas?
Description: Usually asked by 'kepoh' aunties to any younger-than-thems.
Reason being: Curious and plainly wanted to befriend the 'asked'.
Useful and popular replies: Erm~ Gifts?

Question 3: How much angpau did you collect? (Also asked: How much angpau MONEY did you collect?)
Description: Either to start a conversation when long-time-no-see time or want to compare (with utmost do-not-know-what-reason) or plainly want to ask and know and be done with.
Reason being: Usually interpreted as "why you want to know? You want me to spend lunch (options: dinner or breakfast) is it?" (note: the misinterpretations are usually never voiced out.) or just because one feels it is unimportant to inform others about the amount.
Useful and popular replies: Just enough to survive the month lo~ / Ok la~ / Definitely not as much as yours la (usable with or without knowledge of how much the other party collected) / Why you want to know ar? (used in a slightly soft tone to avoid offending the other party). Cheeky answers: Oh! How much angpau I collected? I think around 10 (optional) packets only. (Note: usually ends with an almost innocent and cheeky smile).

General Situations:
Question 4: So where / what do you want to go / eat for breakfast / lunch / dinner?
Description: Asked when in hungry situation (a.k.a.: hunger strikes.)
Reasons being: Too many choices / Not hungry / I want to eat this but I do not think you will want to have it / You choose, I describe / Out of manners / You pick. I am OK with anything. You are fussier and pickier (note: usually not voiced out.)
Useful and popular replies: Anything, la (alternative: Anything oso can la~) / You choose la. I am OK with anything. / I can't decide la. You choose la. (which will sometimes be continued with "ha? Why you wanna eat there / that?").

Academics:
Question 5: Have you finished your assignment / homework / thesis?
Description: Asked either as a greeting and an opening conversation or when plainly and genuinely wanted to know if the 'asking' is nearing the deadline.
Reason being: The 'asked' will think that the 'asking' will want to have a look at it and assuming that the 'asking' has a scanning-machined eyes and print out what the 'asking' had read into another piece of paper and make it his / her own.
Useful and popular replies: Ha? Er~ Why ar? / Oh! I finished already (and when asked "can I take a look at question 3?") Oh! I have not done that question yet. / Oh! I handed in already (note: question is "have you finished your assignment / homework / thesis" which carries basic answers such as "Yes" or "No") / Eh! Ouh My GAWD! I lost my pen! (or anything which comes in mind to divert the question).

Question 6: Can you teach me how to answer this particular question?
Description: Asked when one does not know how to answer a question.
Reason being: This question is usually interpreted as "can you give me your answer?".
Useful and popular replies: Oh! I dunno how to do oso o. What was it again ar? (tip: it is a useful diversion to ask the 'asking' back.) / Overlapping with the answer to Question 3: Ha? Er~ Why ar? / Another overlap: Oh! I have not done that question yet. / Er. Sorry ya. I dunno oso. Ask XX la~ (which is odd because the 'asked' mentioned he/she does not know how to answer the question and yet knew who to ask.)

Question 7: So what marks did you get?
Description: Asked during post-test or post-finals or post-assignments to either compare marks or asked out of manners to start and continue a conversation.
Reason being: Question is usually interpreted as "I want to know because if yours is lower, I'll be happy" or plainly because "I don't wanna know your marks and I won't bother telling you mine".
Useful and popular replies: Ok la~ *smiles and zipped* / It's Ok~ (what is the difference? The first one is informal reply while the second is a formal reply.) / Oh! I passed. / Not as good as yours la of coz~ (usually ends with a forceful short laugh) / OkOk only la~ (What is the difference? This reply has a double Ok stating that the result is averagely good or averagely moderate. Note: There is no averagely bad.)

Well? Is there anymore? I could not think of any. Well, SHARING IS CARING! Share some here and er.. Yea~ Share some here. *^^* REMINDER: I am not liable for any imaginary-offense and hereby, openly state that I use some replies in these post for some questions as well. There you go~

Clubbing..

Yo readers,

Before I start typing what was meant to be typed, read the following:

Disclaimer: This post is to be read from a point of view of only ONE particular person: Christie Wong! This is her blog which gives her absolute right to express whatever and however way she wants to. Readers have absolutely no right to say she offended anyone due to the fact that this is her blog and she is to post what she felt and what she see and want to post and not how and what the readers would and want to feel. Cheerio~ *^^*

Ok! Yup! Basically from the title, it is obvious what this post will be about. Of course I need to write something about this. How shall I put it. Ok. Lets put it this way. CHRISTIE IS NO LONGER A CLUBBING VIRGIN! Yes! SHE FINALLY STEPPED FOOT FOR THE FIRST TIME IN A CLUB! Previously, this sentence was formed long ago even when I was a kid: I DO NOT LIKE CLUBBING!. This is what I formed after my first trip to the club: I DO NOT LIKE CLUBBING!. Go on. Try blinking and rubbing the eyes a few time. No, you are not seeing double. :) And yes! To some of you, you will probably be thinking "omg! It is her first time?". Ouh yes. Do not deny. I know people who thinks of clubbing as a next step to a higher level in life.

Hmmm~ Maybe this was not supposed to be how a real clubbing is like but the one I tried is definitely a put off and it is just adding to the point that I find clubbing a waste of time and money and everything else. I mean like, who created the fact that when clubbing, one needs to drink-drank-DRUNK, doing unnecessary stuff (go ahead, imagine!), smoking, looking absolutely spiffingly prosty-like and a wannabe-trying-too-hard to be cool and getting all high up. Well, I tried imagining what it will be like before going in. What I heard, which contributed to how I had imagined it to be, was pretty cool inside my head which I thought to myself "giving it a chance and a try won't hurt". Apparently, the imaginated picture shattered to pieces as soon as I stepped my foot in. So, clubbing rule #1: DRINK, DRANK, DRUNK AND MORE MORE MORE!

Of course there are a few decent people there, but, heck! Most of them were, ouh I do not know, trying too hard to impress maybe? I stood in a place, for almost half an hour, just to look around and explore. What is with the drinking-away-sorrow or come-to-me-but-damn-I-suck dances (where this fella was doing the cowboy roping on a girl and tried pulling her with that imaginary rope) or the I-am-giving-you-an-obviously-failing sexy killer stare or the I-have-no-$-to-buy-clothes-with-enough-clothing-materials-on or the 'lets drink drank and get drunk and get laid later' thingy, if you get what I mean. They were interesting to see. They were just unknowingly embarrassing themselves. Little kids trying to be cool and acting all-grown-up by smoking, drinking and hitting on people? Hence, clubbing rule #2: LOOK DUMB! WOOT!

Of course there are nothing wrong with the dancings and all. But what is with making out on the dance floor or touching almost every part of the body of the opposite gender or hitting on others on the dance floor? So that was what dancing in a club is like? All of those unnecessary actions? Ouh well. Maybe having the virgin-clubbing habit is making these hard to be accepted for me. But what I saw was like, ok, this couple (obviously) they were making out. After that they walked past me with the guy dragging the girl and the girl looked all high and 'worked-up'. 'WORKED-UP'! French kissing can do such a thing?! The same-gendered french kissing? It is not like I am going against it IF they are genuinely homos. But, heck! In their faces, it was obvious that they had only one purpose of doing it: GETTING ATTENTION! Gah! If you want attention so much, go and stand in the middle of the dance floor and start taking off your clothes, EASIER! Gosh! So this is what clubbing is about, huh. Clubbing rule #3: GRAB ATTENTION! QUICK! AND DESPERATELY!

Drinking? Ok, fine! Getting drunk and all will probably be the first in the clubbers-to-do-list. But drinking and wanting to add actions into it? Like drinking and letting the liquor drool and leak from the side of the mouth? Then wiping them off as though a heavy hard fight just ended? Why do you even want to drink it in the first place if you want to waste it like that? And NO it was not cool at all. From what I heard, you will not get drunk after just a few sips or one glass of liquor (but then again, I ain't liquor master. How would I know, right~). What is with the loud shouting and pretending to be drunk when you were obviously looking sane! Why do you even want to make yourself looking like an idiot anyway. But then again, the world is a more COLOURFUL place to be with UNIQUE and DIFFERENT people everywhere. Who am I to judge, right? Gosh, Christie, you are being a nonsensical prat. Right? Clubbing rule #4: LOOK DUMB! AGAIN!

Of course I have absolutely no right to criticise about the boomingly loud and deafening music which leaves you partially deaf and partly brain dead. What is clubbing without heart stomping music, right. But the deejays were cool of course. Knowing how to swing and change and control and work with music and making them smoothly flowing. Ouh and one part, if you want to check someone out, try working on the stare. Go practice using a mirror and check yourself out. Do not be the kind like standing in one spot and stare blankly with a 'doh~~~~~ uh~ doh?? uh? doh! doh!' look. It will not work. I repeat: IT WILL NOT WORK! Clubbing rule #5: CHECK THEM OUT!

And another thing. Was it written in the manual or the 'rules and regulations' or what-so-ever you call it. OUH! TRADITION! That smoking is a must INSIDE a closed-space club? And after that, blowing smoke into someone's face? Again, you did not look cool. You just look dumb for smoking inside. Get some real and true friends who can be straight-forward to you and tell you how stupid you look like then. Clubbing rule #6: INTO THEIR FACES THE SMOKE WILL GO! INTO YOUR FACE THEIR KNUCKLES WILL GO! RAH RAH!!

But, of course, there were others who just want to have fun and dance the night away in the club. Or just a little drink and chat the night away and looking at 'unbelievable' sights. Who would have thought in just an hour there were so many things can be seen and witnessed. Even on the dance floor, there were many many things to be seen. Ouh well. Those are my say. Go on! Do what you please to speak your speech. Prove me wrong if you must. *^^*

Some ending sentences: To you true clubbers, I apologize for all of these. But heck! I disclaimed it! WOOT! BRING IT ON!

Love is..

Hey all!

Well, not surprisingly, am sitting in starbucks again. After few macroecons run through, it is definitely time to stop looking at the crazy text book for too long. Hmmm~ what should I post about this time. After few 'sight-seeings' here, I felt like posting about this one.

The famous 'Love is blind'. It is pretty true if you think about it. Look around. You will understand why. It is like, when you are so very deeply in love, the flaws, no matter how big or how small they may be, will be seen as 'nothing' to you. People might say you deserve a better partner, but, of course, to you, everyone is wrong about it. It must have been something that person did which touched you so very deeply and all of their wrong-doings will be hidden from your view or you plainly choose not to see it due to the fact you are scared to lose that person. Your sight will be opened when, one fine day, another treasure comes along and top the position of the current one in your life. The problem with that will be you-will-have-to-wait-for-that-one-fine-day. Good things come to those who wait. Trust that sentence. Serious! It works. Once, a dear friend said "Love is stupid". It is not. It is something to cherish and experience no matter how bad or good it is. The problem is, it is blind. "Love is an act of endless forgiveness, a tender look which becomes a habit." - Peter Ustinov - A friend told me that it is more like we are willing to tolerate with it and it is not blind. (Think bout it darling. It is the same. Hehehehehe.)

Love comes in many ways, forms, looks and sizes. Watch 'Love Actually' or 'Love is Cinta'. You will get to see the many ways how love is shared. Sometimes, or should I say most of the time, you can feel or experience the presence. You will have a different feeling of care. Sometimes it comes straight and you see it directly in front of you. It is whether you want to accept it or block it away from you. If you did not get the 'love' you want from that special person, you are still getting endless ones from the people who care.

Love is not selfish. If it is, then it is not love at all. Selfish will be, like, example: A pretty and attractive girl, being popular among guys and loved by most. The Boy , in love with the girl deeply. the Girl knew about his feeling but the Girl has no intention to give the same feeling to the guy. But the Girl just like having that feeling of being like by the Boy. So she kept him hanging and knowingly kept him in pain and torture, even after the Boy opened his feelings to her. For those who are planning to toy around with the other poor unfortunate souls' feelings, put yourself in their position. How the heck would you have felt if it happened to you! For goodness sake, if you do not want to, CUT IT CLEARLY! If someone asked you "what about the future?" and you answered "well, I do not know what will happen in the future. It may work out it may still not." So what? That does not mean you can keep that person hanging till you really know what you want! It is either you give back what that person wants or help that person to move on and save their pride!! For goodness sake!

"To love is to suffer. To avoid suffering one must not love. But then one suffers from not loving. Therefore to love is to suffer, not to love is to suffer. To suffer is to suffer. To be happy is to love. To be happy then is to suffer. But suffering makes one unhappy. Therefore, to be unhappy one must love, or love to suffer, or suffer from too much happiness. I hope you're getting this down."
- Woody Allen - Hey, there will be rainbow only when it was after rain. A rose will not be a rose without thorns.

When you did not get your feelings back the way you want it to. You will start blaming that love will not go your way. Correct? Yes you did blame yourself for having such crazy luck. Well, it is not. It is a wonderful experience. Not everyone can go through such experience. Things like that will only make you stronger and build you up more. "Love doesn't make the world go round, love is what makes the ride worthwhile." - Elizabeth Browning -. "You do not choose love. Love chooses you.". So, if it is not meant to be, slowly let yourself out. It will not only hurt you, the people who care for you will equally feel sad with you. You do not want to appear to be that weak now, do you?

Somewhat personally, I think love is quite dangerous. At one point, it can bring out the evil side of the person and at another point, it can change a person into someone that person is not. I do not think it is right to say that you did not go through that point. Everyone will. After looking around, some homo-sapiens can turn into monsters (may it be green or poisonous). They can even start victimising the people around them just to get attention, even their good friends who stood by them all the time. You got his attention, fine! And then? You will start doing things which you think it is right but it did not go through your mind rationally. Another type will be, you will not be yourself in front of that special person to you. You will try to change yourself just to fit to their perfect partner criteria. You will start to feel uncomfortable of yourself. You will start feeling lost. News flash: First you need to ask yourself. Do you have a circle of friends which is an obvious answer. If they love you perfectly the way you are, so will the special people. If they do not, then it is their lose. It meant it-is-not-meant-to-be!

"Love is like a violin. The music may stop now and then, but the strings remain forever." - unknown - Which of course, reminds me of my late grandparents. That is definitely one good example to illustrate that quote, right? *smiles*

What is your relationship status?

Quite a familiar looking question, isn't it? Definitely openly and publicly found in facebook, friendster and most of the networking channels. It is an interesting question, actually. Well, at least, it is helping to let others who might be interested to know whether it is safe to hit on you. Of course, it consists of a variety of status for you to choose. The few popular ones are of course 'in a relationship', 'single', 'married' and 'it's complicated'. I will bet that if they have a 'not ready for a relationship' status, it will definitely be a big hit.

Well, I personally do not quite get what it's-complicated trying to imply. I mean, how complicated can it get if you are good enough to love yourself and make it simple? Of course you may argue that I do not understand what situations you are in. But, that gives you the excuse to use this status? How complicated? 1: If you broke off, then you are single. 2: If you are in love and single, then it is still single. 3: If you are in love and taken, then it is in-a-relationship. 4: If you are in love but you are not available due to the fact you are madly in love with that someone and that someone is madly in love with you, then it is just plain crazy because the both of you can already be in-a-relationship. So once, my friend surveyed her friend who was in a complicated status.

Friend A: So, how have you been lately? What's up?
Friend B: Oh, nothing much. You know. The usual complicated stuff.
A: So that is why the it's-complicated status?
B: Yup.
A: What about?
B: You know. The usual relationship problems. The guy said he likes me more than his girlfriend and his girlfriend does not know about this. We had sex together. We were happy together. He will break up with his girlfriend soon for me.

That will be only a little part of it. The complication? NONE! That is more like a I-AM-DESPERATE status. Another real life example of a complicated human being will be the following:

Confused boy: I don't know what is exactly going on between us. We broke off. Yet, I know we still like each other.

OR:

Girl: I don't know if we are officially named in-a-relationship 'cuz, like, we have never held hands or go any further. But, even so, he IS my boyfriend. It is just complicated.

Then, why broke off in the first place? Due to personal reasons? In my opinion, that is definitely a bad excuse. You love that someone. Yet you would not share your problem with that someone who cared. Then, what is the point of being in a relationship? And how can it be complicated when you do not even know if you are in a relationship? That is not complicated. That is just a complication YOU MADE UP!
The famous: Everyone-is-using-the-status-I-better-create-one-for-myself status.

Indecisive party: Gosh! I don't know what she is thinking or how is she feeling bout me.
Party's friend: Then, buck up! Go find out! ASK her!
Indecisive party: It is not as easy as you think. The situation is complicated. It needs time to think over. I can't just walk to her and ask her bluntly.

Why not? Or how else do you want information to get to you? What is the use of guessing what is going on and making an it's-complicated status to yourself? It will, of course, be acceptable and I will publicly apologize IF YOU ARE PSYCHIC! Or a mind-reader. How do you know what was stored in the head? Again, you are just creating the complication. It is more like an oh-my-gosh-help-me-I-am-going-to-make-myself-crazy-soon status.

How about the "I am not ready to commit" or "I am not ready to have or be in a relationship" status? This is definitely a popular status. Of course it is undeniable that it may be due to the concentrating-in-studies-first factor or the fact that you might have a bad past relationship. But, personally, I think they are all EXCUSES!

I mean, come on! How do you know when you are ready and when you are not? Again, unless you have super extraordinary emotion reader power, how can you be so sure? You may argue that "this is my life. My feeling. And you will never understand it 'cuz you ain't me!". Yes, of course I can not argue with that. It is true that you know your own feelings. BUT HOW DO YOU KNOW WHEN YOU ARE READY? To me, I do not think it is due to feelings. You want it, you will have to work for it. You will not stray off of your concentration (or else drop out rates will increase drastically every year). How is it possible to blame it on 'readiness' when you yourself made up your mind for that special goal and having to think bout that goal everyday, will not make you lose concentration? THOSE ARE ALL MADE UP! Pity 'readiness' for being blamed for every single thing.

HOW DO YOU KNOW WHEN YOU ARE READY WHEN YOU DID NOT GIVE ANYTHING A TRY OR A CHANCE TO SEE IF YOU ARE REALLY READY?

You argued that you can picture the future if you went for it. Well, NEWS FLASH: You picturing the future does not mean that it will come true because, then, you will only exist in 'Heroes', which I highly doubt so that you are in it! "I picture myself being in a relationship with him. I felt uncomfy and do not know what to do." Think over it. That is a nonsensical sentence! "I am not ready for a relationship. I am not ready to commit again 'cuz I am tired and is still phobia of my horrible past relationship". So, does that mean history will repeat itself and repeat again, and, oops, again and repeat again and again? So, now you are psychic and you can tell you will have another bad relationship? THAT IS CALLED RUNNING AWAY!! GIVE IT A SHOT, people, OR YOU MIGHT LOSE A REALLY GOOD GO! Give it a shot, you will get a 50/50 chance. Not giving at all will be a 100% lose.

But, of course, in the end, the relationship status may be fake. From the status display, it can be a form of self-selling program. Having your relationship fakingly and constantly changing from single to IAR to complicated to married and *POOF* back to single, will definitely draw attention, BIG TIME! Well, you are not an Elizabeth Taylor or Paris or Brit enough to draw attention using the celebrity-favourite: The hooked-on hooked-off relationship publicity act. It will draw attention: Partly sympathizing you and partly thinking that you are one big time player and partly just being a plain topic to be gossiped or bitched about! So, give it a rest 'cuz you are trying too hard. Ain't a pretty sight of the image, isn't it now.

Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus..

Sounds familiar doesn't it. Basically, it is teaching you how to improve the guy-girl, man-woman relationship. It is published in year 1992. Little exotic and priceless gifts will make women going all ga-ga over. Little chivalry will make women swoon. A lot of attention and the quality and the type of gift will be how the women will judge the men. Spending time together is essential. How women response to their men. How husbands or boyfriends have the need, or should I say a must, to e-mail or text or call their women everyday or every night and shower them with attention 24/7 to keep their relationship last forever.

Those stated may work or did work in the 90's. Since the blooming twentieth century world, actions and needs of martians and venusians, like fashion trends, are constantly improving and changing. In these recent world, lives are going more towards reality. In other words:

"Men and women are from EARTH!"

Chivalry? What does it mean? Does it exist in the world life-dictionary of earthlings? Go ask around. Most men would love their women to be more independent and handle things on their own instead of constantly being all overly-sissified and run weeping helplessly being the help-I-am-a-damsel-in-distress to their men. What is with the pulling chairs out for you, opening the doors before you or laying a clean white cloth on the puddle for you to walk on the puddle without getting your delicate feet wet (when obviously you can walk around it avoiding it). There are surveys in ladies' magazines stating that most men find these annoying. You can't expect the martians to look after and watch out for venusians all the time. When will martians find time to look after themselves? Ladies, give your men a break. They can't always handle things for you. Time to show that women can do it as well. It will bring out the confidence in you which is definitely more attractive than the weepy-creepy attitude. Well, of course there are still men being all overly gentlemen. But better be careful 'cuz like they can either be a phoney prat or that is just plainly his attitude and definitely he will do it to everyone else not only to you. So, how special you feel now, huh?

Attentions? Showeing the venusians with a heck lots of attentions? Pity the martians. How many times they have to crack their head to think up something new to surprise you. The most popular question among venusians are definitely "why do guys get hooked up with footballs (or anything of their interest) even though they are in a relationship and neglect the girls?". Well venusians, why do us girls get hooked up with shopping (or anything of our interest) when clearly some martians may show that they are bored with it? It is the same theory actually. When you answered your own question, you basically answered theirs. In the good ol' days, during the generation of our parents or grands, gifts are essential to show how sincere you are ESPECIALLY the quantity, quality and the PRICE of the gift. In Malaysians' case, in this economically blooming era, well, let us just put it this way. Economic of Malaysia blooms, the inflations bloom as well accordingly (what is the point, right..) and currently, so are the fuel prices. So yes, martians still believe in the guys-must-have-and-own-a-car-to-drive-their-girls-around. In other words, martians have more to handle and their wallets burn faster than the ladies (ladies, shopping and excessive spendings do not count in this case). How do venusians expect them to shower them with lovely shiny small-yet-kachingly-costly gifts?

Intimacy and togetherness? Needless to say more. 24/7 relationships are definitely suffocating. But of course, there are people who enjoys it. During the 90's or 80's, these requirements are essential maybe because risk takings are not popular or their image will be crushed if they broke off with someone, they clearly could not stay happy with, and went off trying with another (trying as in dating). But heck, look at Donald Trump or Elizabeth Taylor. In the olden times, togetherness and intimacy 24/7 may be important to keep the relationships strong and tight and, heck, martians then do not look at other women (or maybe if they did, venusians will probably make their life a mess for a day then). Now? From 2000 and beyond, 24/7 relationships are like trapping a bird in a cage everyday, every second. Imagine seeing the same person everyday. Venusians and martians might just get bored with each other and soon fall apart. But of course they sometimes work out (though I personally never met one without a series of complaints about the 24/7-ness).

Communicating? Question like "why don't you ever listen to me?" will pop out from the mouth of the venusians. Why is that? Do martians really never listen? Come off it, babes. They have ears. Of course they listen. Only that they chose not to comment on it. Martians tend to go towards simplicity while venusians to complications. Martians do listen. In fact, they are good listeners. Venusians tend to go on and on and bringing up things. We can't expect to have martians to solve every of our problems or else what are psychologists or counsellors or mothers are for. Obviously martians have their own problems, too. Only that some (or most) venusians tend to think that martians are simple-minded and are care-free. Seriously, they are not exactly from MARS! They are EARTHLINGS with feelings.

Martians spending more time with their 'brothers'? Think over the question again. Do you see anything wrong with it? Exactly! NO! Venusians is allowed to have venusians' day out or venusians' slumber parties or venusians' gossip day (does that exist? It is basically everyday and every hour, right?), so, why not martians? Ask your martian friends. Martians have things which they do not fully share with venusians, even when they are in a relationship together. They need martian-hood like how venusians need venus-hood.

Well, at least those are opinions of some of the venusians I know. In the twentieth century, remember! WE ARE ALL EARTHLINGS!! Martians and venusians are in their endangered and extinction phase. Try preserving it. In this fast moving world where everyone is going towards risk-taking, the chances of you preserving it is decreasing. No? *Smiles*